What Being A Mum Means To Me.

There is another post back one if you missed it. I'm on a roll writing 2 days in a row. It's been a long long time since I did that. :)
 
I am the first to admit that I go through blogging stages where some weeks I have no time on my hands whatsoever then occassionally the oppertunity arises I find I DO have time to blog. But then I am stuck with "Bloggers Block". If authors can get "Writers Block" then I think "Bloggers Block" must also exist.

I am a blogger that generally surveys my family life and my surroundings. I don't write to create arguments, I don't write to try and get as many followers as possible, what my blog is is simply ME and how I see the world. I love new people popping by, I would love new followers and comments by new people or lurkers but it's not the main reason why I blog.

So, it's My World......

The world is a truly magnificent place in my eyes. There will always be those who go through hardships and being the optimist that I am, I see many of these people come out the other side. By no means have I had an easy life, I've been through some rather nasty situations over the years but for every hardship there is a silver lining and part of human nature is to thrive for something better.

I love reading other blogs. I don't always comment as I don't always have time but I do have my favourites with whom I try to comment on regularly if not every post. If I don't comment, there's still a good chance I read, just have little time for anything else.

The world is an ever changing place. There is constantly new patterns emerging. New trends, new friends, new life come out of both real life and fellow bloggers.

I am currently reading a few pregnancy blogs, some related to infertility but many of those have found that silver lining. Some are having less than easy pregnancies, some have even welcomed their little ones from singular births to triplets to this big wide world earlier than they should have arrived but it's good to see them doing well.

For others, every day is closer to holding a long awaited baby.

Now, whilst I understand that many have not had easy pregnancies at times - these are such special times and days that should be incredibly cherished.

In the blink of an eye your baby becomes 2 and a half years old. That's right, somehow, my little Liam is now nearer 3 years old than 2.

As much as I LOVE reading in on the pregnancies and all the excitement surrounding a new birth, I know my baby days are very much over.

I look back with much fondness on my pregnancies. Though the second and third pregnancies were not exactly plain sailing, I LOVED being pregnant.

With James I was admitted to hospital bleeding and the panic set off contractions. I was 30 weeks. An overnight stay and I was sent off home as contractions stopped as did the bleeding. They never got to the bottom of what caused it and despite closer monitoring I never had another hospital visit until the morning he was born.

With Liam, at first I couldn't get excited about the pregnancy. James was very young and very early in the pregnancy I had very sharp lower stomach pains. I couldn't rest knowing how severe the pains were. Again, the doctor couldn't say why I was in that pain and because I never bled, I really didn't know what was going on in there. I was very anxious when it came to the 12 weeks scan. I was prepared for a missed miscarriage but seeing a little 12 week old "baby" with a precious little heartbeat greeted us on the screen.

As the pregnancy progressed I was tested for everything from Gestational Diabetes to Pre-Eclampsia as he was measuring bigger and my blood pressure would vary hugely from each visit to the midwife.

The fears and scares turned out to be ill founded and when I look at my little people, they truly were all entirely worth it. Those 9 months go very very fast! (Faster if they arrive before their due date)

When they do arrive, some do it quietly without much fuss - my 3 certainly did, others enter the world in a more dramatic way but once that little person or persons are here then that's when life really begins.

Nothing prepares you properly for motherhood. Books and people may be on hand for advice but every child is different and so is every mother. I prefer the laid back approach, letting the babies feed on demand, letting them learn independence early on (ie, putting them in a bouncer to do housework is FAR easier than trying to drag them around with you in a sling) to let them develop at their own pace. I never did baby massage though it's incredibly trendy these days, I just gave them alot of love and affection with cuddles, playing games and tickling. All for free.

Everyone takes on motherhood in their own way. Nothing is right or wrong. Sometimes we get it right. Sometimes we won't and that doesn't make us any less of a mother, just a human one.

Having a baby is whole new life of learning and no babies are the same so what works for one may not necessarily work for another. You need to get to know your own child rather than base all your knowledge on another child. My 3 boys for instance are very very different in character and great fun in their own little ways.

There's never a right or wrong path with kids, but it's a whole new journey. It won't always be easy but it's one of the most rewarding things in the world when you see your baby grow and become a little person of their own.

So, whilst I do reminisce about pregnancy and the excitement that surrounds the impending arrival, these days are just as fabulous watching that little life you helped create come into their own as a real little person. Things change and I am never fearful of change, you just need to be able to adapt and that makes it all that much easier.

The new-born days really don't last long then the stages come and go in the blink of an. The rolling, the sitting up, the crawling, walking, the first tooth (teething is not something I miss), first immumisations, eating solids, growing out of clothes, growing out of toys, growing out of the highchair, potty training, nurseries, As much as this list looks crazy these milestones soon come round.

Enjoy every moment of pregnancy and baby-ness. It really does just fly by.

For those still trying, my deepest best wishes are continuously with you to experience this amazing adventure!!!!