Reflective Birthday Post

Every now and then I seem to have almost a complete lapse of memory.

Let me explain....

Five years ago, I was celebrating my 27th birthday as a single mother with one child living in another town. I was mid divorce though it was a slow process and I relied so much more on my family, and time with old friends was frequent but I didn't get out to have social time without my son very often due to money issues. When my ex left and went to live in London, I was left the single mother living on benefits and left with all his debts. As they couldn't chase him, they could chase me as I was his wife and in his "recorded" address.

That feels such a long time ago. It was a little under 2 months later that I met my lovely husband.

Looking back to that time feels so long ago, almost like it was another life or another person that I reflect upon.

As for the person I was during my first marriage and everything I endured the memories have faded to such an extent that it really doesn't feel like that was me at all.

The easiest way to explain it is like when you see a character on tv. They go through their life challenges and move on, the next storyline comes along and the previous one is soon forgotten.

Of course, another birthday doesn't set in a new age of growth and wisdom immediately, things change over time. 

Looking back on the past few years, I feel that I am a much stronger, secure person now I am in my thirties than I have ever been in life. Of course I have bad days but the last 5 years have seen a whole turnaround in life.

Now married, living in a village with another 2 children I feel I have found my purpose in life. Life is good and this is what it's all about.

Going through tough times just make the good times better and I'd never wish for my youth back. Like everyone I've had great times as well as the bad and I've made mistakes along the way but I've learned valuable lessons along the journey.