I Don't Like Waiting.

I know it's only been a few days but I am getting impatient at how Matthew was assessed last week. I don't expect to hear anything back before half term (school finishes for a week Feb 10th) but his teacher did say that the nurse did think there was a problem.

WELL HELLO NURSE! GUESS WHY YOU HAD BEEN CALLED IN IN THE FIRST PLACE????

I'm relieved he's been looked at, I am pleased that people are trying to help, it's just what can I expect as a diagnosis.

We could get the ADHD diagnosis..

We could even have the possibility of a form or Autism though it is fairly unlikely.

I will be very surprised if we are NOT diagnosed with ADHD.

Symptoms include:


Excessively, consistently and involuntarily having difficulty:

• Remaining seated when required - Matthew is the worlds worst fidget pants. In school he has even been given an object to play with to keep him still and focussed.
• Waiting turn in group situations - Matthew doesn't like waiting, always rushes to be first.
• Following instructions - I have to constantly repeat instructions.
• Playing quietly - If he's not running around shouting as he's playing football and giving his own commentary then he is humming away at every task from playing on the 3ds, to watching tv to even eating dinner.

Other common symptoms include:

• Shifting from one incomplete activity to another - Matthew never seems to finish anything without being watched and encouraged.
• Interrupting others - Will often interrupt conversations and has been having many problems with this at school.
• Engaging in physically dangerous activities without considering the consequences - For a boy of 8 years Road Safety is a major concern for me.  I DAILY have to remind him we need to be quiet so we can hear traffic when we have a main road to cross. Smaller roads aren't so bad but I do have to constantly tell him not too run off too far ahead on the way to school or back from school because of this. James has better road knowledge and though he is only 3, he has a good understanding of why the road is dangerous.

In short Matthew just doesn't think things through.

There are 3 types of ADHD:

• Predominantly hyperactive-impulsive
• Predominantly inattentive
• Combined (the majority of ADHD cases)

I think Matthew will have the Combined form.

Matthew is not a bad kid in the slightest. He cares, he isn't rough with other kids and he always wants to help. It can just be infuriating at times when you feel you are constantly repeating yourself. When nothing seems to go in. When he doesn't seem to listen to a word you say.

I love my little boy to bits, I just want an official diagnosis so we can learn how to move forward together with this.

If it means medication, me and hubby attending a workshop on understanding ADHD or even Parenting Classes to be more supportive with him then he deserves it.

I feel a bad mother so often that of the 3 boys, Matthew is the one that makes me angriest and most frustrated. I realise it's not his fault and I don't like myself for it at all. Yet, I can't give him all the attention all the time.It's hard to find a balance but one I will hopefully find over time.