And The Verdict Is This..

What can I say about my darling boy Matthew?

Yes, there are times he can be hard work but on the whole, the boy tries hard.  He didn't have the best start in life and I know I have made a few mistakes but he is a good kid.

Last Wednesday we had to attend a follow up appointment regarding the ADHD testing. The specialist we saw before was a real lovely gentleman and I was happy to have him again. He went through in extreme detail of the report the undercover observer from his class a few weeks back.

He told us what the observer had written word for word and explained what they had been looking for.

In short, he was a little fidgety at set times but in general, he was VERY well behaved. He was eager to get on with his work, he put his hand up to answer questions (something he didn't do before), He waited his turn for things (again, this was a BIG struggle for him).and showed focus when he did work. 

So based upon the observers notes we have been signed off from their books.

MATTHEW DOES NOT HAVE ADHD in any shape or form. He is just a little boy with a little too much energy at times.

I am SO proud of him.

We have noticed big differences over the months and even the specialist said that by the time he gets to see kids, it can be 18-24 months after referral by the time they get to him and in that time lots can change.

Matthew is a LOT calmer than he has ever been. Part of it - I believe - is that we have altered his diet and he is smart enough to understand that this is doing him good and when he does get treats, he does appreciate it that much more.

My little boy is also growing up.

Of course, he has genetics and I can see where he gets impatience from. (Me) And his father never really thought about things before carrying them out.

Matthew did speak to his dad last week for a short time and the conversation went well. Even I had a few minutes talking to him. He seems to be on a better track at long last. I know the marriage failed for a number of reasons but I want him to move on and find happiness like I have. No matter what happened in the marriage, I want him to sort himself out for himself.  Everyone deserves to be happy and I hope for his sake he has sorted out his demons. Yet history tells me this all could be an act for now.  Matthew handled his dad in a very sensible and mature manner so I am really proud of him for that too. There has been times Matthew hasn't wanted to talk to him at all and I've had to more or less force him to just to be polite to his dad but Matthew is learning like the rest of us, a phone call every few months makes life alot easier.

My little man is growing up and becoming a real little gentleman.