Two Steps Forward, Two Steps Back, What Really Happens When Opposites Attract

So.... Following on from my previous post.

Friend explained to me that when she and her hubby first got together they were polar opposites and that had alot to do in the initial attraction.

Over the years it was never a real problem. They married, had kids and carried on life as they did.

It's only been in the last year or two that she's realised that having very different characters and interests is becoming more of a problem.

My question here is how long can opposites attract before they begin to repel away from one another?

This is something I know about all too well. It was only when she told me her story that I began to think about my past marriage.

I can dress it up, I can blame him, I can blame myself, I can blame the issues I had in the past and his ongoing issues as much as I like but inevitably the one thing that was the killer for my first marriage was that we were completely opposites of one another and to cut a long story short, neither of us wanted to change.

We were happy with ourselves and our lives, we just weren't happy together. I just wasn't happy with us together.

We did argue often and about pretty much everything under the sun all because we didn't have the same priorities and over time comes insecurity and resentment.

This is the bit I have been reluctant to tell said friend as she says that they don't seem to have any of what attracted them to one another there anymore. This is something they need to work through together and my situation was incredibly different to theirs.

I do actually like her hubby and I didn't know things were so bad with them but what do you really know about people's private lives unless they tell you otherwise? I just hope they find a solution that will have them both happy in the long run as neither of them sound it right now. It's something I need to be supportive with and at the same time keep my distance as it's something only they can judge and work on.