Friday, 30 November 2012

December Creeps In

And so befalls the last day of November.

As much as I look forward to Christmas, I am sort of sad to say goodbye to what has been a lovely enjoyable fun month.

It's been a big month of little things.

It's been a month of progress.

Matthew walks home from school.
Liam is out of the buggy for most trips.
Liam is almost out of daytime nappies.

On Wednesday we had a highly successful pants day. We were out with a friend and visited 3 shops, a supermarket and her house without a wet accident all morning. In the afternoon he kept dry too. I am reducing drinks for the time being, just to make it a little easier for him to adjust. Today we made it to the school and back without an accident too so we could be on to the second successful day of out and about in pants.

I am still not giving away the EXACT date of my driving test, I am being playful about it on facebook but for my blog friends I will give away just a little extra clue. It's in the first half of December. So within 10 working days I will have done it. (Saturdays and Sundays discounted as Saturday is too expensive and they don't do Sundays) Like I said, I am being very vague and I like it that way. My next two hour lesson will be my LAST 2 hour block before the big day so I will be doing a mock test for the first part of the lesson and work on anything I need to improve upon after that and I will get an hour in before I do it for the final preparations.

I don't expect to pass first time. I only know of 2 people who have passed first time and one of those is my husband so I am feeling the pressure. Agh!

As long as it goes better than my last lesson which I am hoping was my terrible lesson in 4 that I a normally have, then I should be ok.

Tomorrow I hope to get the Christmas tree. Yesterday I got James and Matthew helping make some decorations for the tree this year.  Gingerbread men and hearts decorated with a flour paste and glitter. I would share a photo but it seems that blogger can only hold 1GB as a free deal and I am already at that quota. I'm going to need to delete some as I will need Christmas pics up soon.

I think that's about it for now, everyone have good weekends.



Saturday, 24 November 2012

Mrs T....r? Er Yes, Maybe I Could Go Back To Education To Work In Education

Ah, what a lovely week it has been.

Busy but mostly a very good week.

It's been a week for catching up with friends and strengthening new friendships.

Over the past month or so I have been getting to know a lady who lives in the next road to me a little better. She's got two lovely little boys, one is the same age is James and another is just turned two. I'm really enjoying spending more time with this lady and as I'm getting to know her better she is opening up a little and I am really growing more and more admired by this woman. I knew that before she had her 4 year old she lost a baby and was lucky wnough to fall pregnant with her son quickly again after. What I didn't realise until this week was that when she said she'd lost a baby which is sad for any mother, it was very late on. She sailed through pregnancy early on and as things progressed everything looked good until a routine check at 38 weeks showed he no longer had a heartbeat. I so felt for her and she said it was good that she can talk to someone else about him after all this time.  I really feel like her but I am glad she confided in me that little part of her life and we feel that we can be good friends more so. I really feel like I am getting a close knit of good friends in the village now and everyone is so lovely.

On Friday I had my first morning helping out in nursery with the 4 year olds. It was SO SO SO lovely. I loved being in there with 22 four year olds. Liam tagged along and I got a lovely Visitor badge to wear all day. I was in my element. I helped out the teachers whilsr the kids were in assembly by cutting out shapes that they are working on this week. We then all took a walk to the local Post Office as it was an important day for the nursery kids. We were posting off their letters to Father Christmas. I love all the cutesy stuff they do at this age. It's just wonderful to see so much promise in such a group of young little individuals. James loved the fact I was helping out. A couple of times I saw him pointing me out to his friends and saying "That's my mum!"  With many kids, having someone new in class was exciting and they all wanted to help. A good few times I got "Miss...... what's this?" "Miss.... My name is......" and they were just gorgeous. There was a stage just before we went to the Post Office where they were all interested in what I was cutting out and 4 of them (including James) wanted to help me and put all the paper in the bin.  They were so sweet taking little handfuls here and there and were really fair in letting one another do something.  I helped them with coats when it was time to leave and they all walked incredibly well in pairs there and back. Once we got back it was play outside time for the little ones and I had a lovely coffee with all the teachers in the staff room. I know most of them since they have taught Matthew over the past 2 and a half years (Yes, we've really been here that long!)  so I didn't feel out of place sitting with these people. It was weird.

I've volunteered to help out more once Liam is in playgroup all 5 days a week and with that I will ask about getting qualifications I need to work in a nursery or be a teaching assistant. I don't necessarily want to be restricted just to nursery but if I could get a job as a general Teaching Assistant to help in all classes helping with hearing older kids read and just chipping in where needed. I see a future ahead in this field.

Today we left the kids with my parents looking after them and took my nan on a proper day out to Londons newest (and best) shopping centre. We just wanted to take her somewhere further afield from anywhere my mum takes her. She really enjoyed it and was able to see the Olympic Stadium for real. She really enjoyed herself and was able to get Christmas presents for the boys.

Speaking of which we have finished James and Liams presents. Just Matthew to finish. All we need to buy other than finishing Matthews is something for hubbys brother, nephew and sister, something for my dad and a birthday present for his nan who celebrates her birthday on Christmas Eve. We are thinking of buying just a little extra for hubbys dad and stepmum as we dont see them so often but other than those few Christmas shopping is mostly complete. We would like to try and finish it on Monday if we can but we'll see. All I can say is Lego and Toy Story rules this Christmas where the younger ones are concerned and technology for Matthew.

Monday, 19 November 2012

Growing Up Far Too Fast

1) The kids are growing up incredibly fast these days. I am incredibly proud of all 3.

2) Starting with the biggest news of the week/past 2 weeks is that Matthew now walks home from school on his own. Once a week we will meet him at the library rather  than have him walk all the way home but the other 4 days of school he is free to trek back on his own.

3) Needless to say mummy worries alot more about this than he does. SO with that in mind, one of Matthews Christmas presents this year is a mobile phone. I never thought I would be one of those mums who allowed their teenagers to have phones, let alone give one to my son 3 weeks before he turns 9!!! But this is to be able to contact him if he is late or if there is a change in pattern at all. He will get a pay as you go phone and only get £10 per month on it as a way of pocket money.

4)Liam is getting to the end of his nappy journey. The last few weeks have been great with the potty training. We even had a whole week accident free wearing pants. Today he got through play group wearing pants and trousers all morning without an accident. Ok, he did have an accident between the house and the playgroup but that doesn't count.

5) So we took him to McDonalds as a treat for lunch. (Yes, I am a mega evil bad mum that feeds my kids fast food occassionally wink wink) and since we've been back we've had another accident. Now he's back in a nappy as he sleeps off his hectic exciting morning.

6) I am not discouraged by the accidents at all and I won't let him be either. Rome wasn't built in a day as the saying goes.

7) These number points aren't all completely necessary.

8) We've done a whole load of Christmas shopping already. I am very pleased with myself about this.

9) Growing my nails once again.

10)  In less than 4 weeks, I will have done my driving test. Again, I am not sharing the date but on the day I will update the blog with how it went.

11) We've pretty much got Liam out of the buggy. He walks to school and back every morning and we don't take it out shopping or anything any more. I do occassionally take it out for the collection of James as I don't think I am ready to have 2 tired boys trudging home slowly when I just want to get in and sort out lunch.

12) Liams current LOVE is Disney Cars.

13) James Loves Lego, especially Lego City.

14) Matthew still lives for football. He is very interested in sport as a whole but it's football (soccer) all the way.

15) It's scary thinking that my baby will soon be out of nappies and the buggy. The only baby thing left is the stairgate at the top of the stairs - but that is hanging around for a bit. Until the little boys sleep in later than 6am at least.

16) It's getting colder all of a sudden. I don't like cold.

17) My Good Reads book challenge is nearly over! I wanted to achieve 100 books in 2012, I am currently halfway through "Never Tell" by Claire Seeber and that's a very good thriller I would recommend. It's also book #94. With "Bridget Jones - Edge Of Reason" on the list next I expect to have finished that by the weekend and be on book #96 to start next week.

18) If I counted the kids school and library books I would be closer to 400 than 100!

19)  I don't think I have mentioned Christmas enough. It's my favourite time of year. I need Christmas decorations this year as last year we made our own. It's not something I will repeat. It's only a month until we have our pre-christmas break and I am really excited.

20) The car was broken YET AGAIN. Hubby took it to our regular garage to get it fixed. The pump on the water thing that cleans the windows appeared to be broken but it was actually a split pipe that they replaced free of charge. It was fine in the MOT the other week so we don't know what happened. The main thing is it's back to working ok. Oh well, should be in perfect working order when I get to drive it. And since I don't currently drive it, I am not getting the blame for it's issues. The End.

Saturday, 17 November 2012

Children In Need 2012

So then, when I am not being a swearing evil mother in supermarkets, I put alot of time and effort into pleasing my little fellas.

Yesterday was Children in Need day and I think I surpassed myself in the effort I put in this year.

I made 26 cakes for the cake sale.

I thought like a child and designed them for kids. So of course we had to go for sprinkles.

 
The cake sale were selling all cakes for 20p each in aid of the charity.

In nursery they sold out fast.

They also sold out for the bigger kids too, Matthew and Liam each bought mummys cakes over all the Pudsey bears (that I planned to do originally) and chocolatey ones.

The kids also paid £1.20 each to go to school in pyjamas, have their faces painted and to get a cake in school. But I did take the kids extra cake money.



So this year, my contribution to Children  in Needs has been £2.40 for non uniform, 60p for extra cakes and £5.20 raised from selling out my cakes. That's a grand total of £8.20 without taking into account the cake ingredients so I am feeling like I have done some good for others this week.

On the night Children in Need raised a staggering £26.7million for kids that need it. From those coping with abuse to those mourning a lost parent and all those with medical conditions and disabilities. Children in Need not only raises money but awareness for these kids. This total normally goes up by another £15-£20million once all the counting has been done over time.

This week has mostly been about Christmas shopping but I will elaborate more on that when Matthew isn't around with the risk of reading over my shoulder. Ha!

Wednesday, 14 November 2012

Confession Time.

As a mother I should be ashamed.

Rule 1 is to never make a promise you cannot necessarily keep. That was me with the blogging promise at the end of my little note upon having no time. But hey, here's a little look into the world of us.

So then, A major confession.

You know there are all sorts of parents and children out there and all too often, we are ALL too quick to judge at times.

Well, on Sunday we went out shopping  and in a supermarket there was a woman doing her weekly shop. Her kids weren't being particularly well behaved and she was doing her best to control the little rabble. The oldest was leaning on things, kicking things and generally acting hyper. The second child was winding up the biggest child sneakily making comments calling the older kid "poo-poo" and trying to get bigger kid into more trouble by answering and reacting back. The third kid obviously hated being in the trolley and whinged and whined from aisle to aisle and when the biggest kid tried to show affection retaliated by kicking out. With the oldest kid making a big fuss, the two younger ones were laughing and shouting for more.

Eventually the mother obviously lost her rag and shouted out at them all in front of all the other shoppers.

"For Fucks sake, can't you all bloody behave for one stupid hour!!!!"

She then yelled at the oldest child "And I expect YOU to be fucking well setting an example not acting a complete idiot in public!"

Phew.......

Don't you just hate mothers like that?

Don't you just think that if people like that talk to those kids like that then they are probably completely shit parents and should not be in charge of having kids?

I have certainly felt that in the past with some families who seem proper disfunctional. Mum looks rather harrassed and whilst you can't possibly imagine the way things are at home you don't know whether to feel sorry for them or believe them to be a complete utter bitch incapable of controlling her kids or herself.

Yes, I have felt that. I have felt that MANY a times witnessing pyschotic mothers stressed out and fed up in shops and in towns.

On Sunday however, this crazed over-stressed had-enough of the kids mother was me. The little horrors in the shop were MY little horrors.

I never claim to be a perfect mum.

I never claim to have the perfect family or the perfect kids.

I sometimes am a rather awful mother that does and says things on the spur of the moment that I am not proud of. I know what I do is wrong, I know that I am not the first and certainly won't be the last pyscho mum in a supermarket but I won't be so quick to judge at times.

More often than not I am the one that is holding my kids hands, skipping along happily singing songs and sharing little kisses with my kids but other times, the times I often try to keep private I fail miserably at this "good mothering" lark and no one feels worse about it than I do myself.

So just next time you see that mother looking stressed and telling her kids off constantly in a shop, try not to judge but wonder just how you would be reacting and feeling towards her parent style if she was just letting her kids get away with blue murder.

I love my kids beyond words but every now and then they do make me snap at the worst possible time and make me look an evil monster.

Confession Over.

Monday, 12 November 2012

I Need More Time

One of the reasons I feel maybe I need a blogging break is simply because of the time aspect.

Even today, I had 2 undisturbed children free hours and I planned to update then but it didn't turn out that way as ever.

Even when the kids are at school and rather self sufficient most of the time, you end up doing a million and one other things other than what you actually planned to do.

Life with kids DOES get easier as they age but it doesn't mean that there's less to do or that time slows. If anything, it's the opposite. We do take time for granted and I like to enjoy the present as much as possible.

Tomorrow I PROMISE I will get round to a real update.

Tuesday, 6 November 2012

Blogging Feels So 1990's These Days

I've really fallen out of sync with blogging of late.

There's a whole number of reasons that is stopping me. 

The whole concept of blogging feels incredibly OLD.

I think I am gearing up to pack it all in after almost 14 years of and move on.

I just don't think this is me anymore.

That is all.

Monday, 5 November 2012

November Begins

Now James is 4, the word, phrase and question of the age has crept in. "WHY???"  is the response to just about everything.

We had a lovely day for his birthday. We went out for a meal and he got his long awaited Lego City Police Station that he's wanted for a long time.

Lego City is the one thing James is really hooked on.

He also loved the Leappad we bought him.


As did Matthew. Matthew has become James's little shadow when the machine is out. I still find it scary to believe James has his first games console.

On Friday we went to a fireworks display. My friend lives at the top of the village right next door to where the main firework display in the area was so we were all kept nice and warm around the bonfire in the garden and had some yummy food after. I provided some chick pea and spinach curry that went down a treat.

It was James and Liams first firework display and they did great watching them. Liam was a little unsure of the bangs but loved the colours and patterns.

James had a go with his first ever sparkler.

On Saturday we took in my mother in laws dog so she could see hubbys brother and family. Strange to think that my little nephew celebrated his first birthday already. He was born the same day as James so she visited us on his birthday and was spending the weekend in Sussex with the other grandson.

Jackson is a Yorkshire Terrrier and SO well behaved. He was a great little friend to me. He isn't so sure on men as he was originally a rescue dog that had been abused so we think that's why he's nervous around men. He wasn't too happy with the neighbours fireworks but coped well. He did go running around the living room and climbing on the furniture at first but after a while he just seemed to enjoy watching the fireworks out the living room window even if he did bark at every bang.

He also seemed to like Matthew: 


Speaking of Matthew, he got his glasses last week.


He is very proud of them and couldn't wait to get into school and try them out properly today.

I did book my driving test as I said I would and all I am saying is that it is in December. Yes, you read that right. IT'S NEXT MONTH. Scary as hell but I am quietly confident these days and as long as things go well on the day and the person doing the test is in a good christmassy mood, then I don't see any reason I should fail.

Now I have a date to aim for, the final things are slipping into place that little bit more. I'm mastering the moves I struggle with most and I just need  a little more confidence and less instruction on dual carriageways and I am there. If I fail first time, I WILL be a little disappointed but then I can prepare for the next test knowing where my errors were and where I really need to work on.

The car has been a pain in the bum. Needed new shock absorbers and something to do with brake pads - I think they were replaced. (I'm gonna be just great with a car eh?) so hubby was given a courtesy car for a few hours.

It's the car I WANT!!!! I really want one of these:

He borrowed a metallic blue one but I quite like this colour. It's a Ford Fiesta.

I do apologise that I base my choice of car on style and colour over how good the engine is, the popularity, reliability etc. But to be completely honest, car speak may as well be Japanese. I want a car I am happy to look at and if it impresses my husband then all the better. He did say it was quite a good little car and quite enjoyed driving it so maybe there is hope.

Nothing else too exciting to report over here but finally on a topical note.

I don't know much about politics but if I was voting in the US tomorrow I would vote Obama. There's something I don't like about Romney. I just don't trust him. Good luck to all but hoping Obama triumphs.