I am so not a happy bunny this week already.
Out of the 10 people I have invited on my hen night I am already at 3 definite no's. All of which at the beginning were "Of course we'll be there!" people.
I'm fed up of being let down and people taking the piss.
So much so I was on the verge of cancelling the whole thing last night.
I am REALLY hurt by some people at the moment and I just can't be bothered to try any more.
I am the kind of person who WILL make the effort. If something really isn't my thing, but I am invited, I will go for that person who invited me. I make an effort with my friendships, I DON'T let people down unless I can really help it. I make time for my friends and I expect the same in return, most of all on a one off occassion like this.
Despite the invitations and planning happening around 6 weeks ago now, one person has to see an old friend she hasn't seen for ages. Another one has booked a holiday and the third has got herself tickets to a summer festival.
It's not like I am trying to plan it now, it's been arranged for weeks but I am obviously pretty low on the priorities list.
I am particularly upset as one of these girls are one of my bridesmaids.
They all make it clear they can do other nights the month I want, well I can't!!!! Not very easily anyway.
It's MY night so WHY should I change MY plans for everyone else?
I am probably being petty and hugely STUBBORN over this but I don't want to budge. I don't see why I should. If they can't make the effort for me, why should I go through the process of rebooking to please other people?
I could have invited alot more than 10 people. I could have invited everyone on facebook within a 50 mile radius, but I didn't. Why? Because I only wanted certain friends to be there. Friends who obviously don't think so highly of me.
So to those who are otherwise engaged, fine. I will rethink plans through because I will be living in another place by the time it comes round and if they are letting me down now, then theres a very good chance these friendships will fizzle out very quick.
So maybe on the grounds of one being a bridesmaid, I can arrange another date. If I did, I doubt I'd invite the other two. Thats if I can have another date as it revolves around bfs work patterns.
It's a shame that the three of them have said no. Especially if things were booked and arrangements made after you'd confirmed the date of your hen party. I too wouldn't invite the other two if it was rearranged, just the bridesmaid. Such a shame and now it's ruined the excitement and fun of it for you. *hugs* Chin up, chickadee.
ReplyDeleteWow, that really sucks. They should be bending over backwards for you! YOU are the bride, you are not supposed to rearrange things to suit other people. Especially your bridesmaid. Shouldn't they be the ones helping organise everything for the hens night anyway? I am really sorry that they are letting you down and I hope that you will have a really awesome night anyway.
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