After a few too many issues with this website over recent months and the ridiculous only showing one post of all the blogs I do follow I've decided to move:
My new blog
Everyone is welcome as before, it may take a little time to build it up but it's going to be an open blog that covers much more than I've done here.
As much as it still will be my family blog, it's also a bit more me and my life. As my kids are getting older and ready to go off to big schools, I'm not going to have quite so much to fill the pages with so there'll be recipes, diet updates, style. All things I've covered briefly in here but it's going to be more Becca than Becca's kids.
I hope to see some of you over there and you can still follow wordpress via blogger so you have no excuse. Ha.
I will still read the blogs on my list, have exported some of my faves to my wordpress feed and I will continue to comment when and where I can but even blogger has been playing up with that lately.
So it's far from goodbye, I'm just moving house.
Wednesday, 25 June 2014
Saturday, 14 June 2014
Liam and I
Yesterday was Liams nursery sports day. He had a lot of fun taking part in the fun group activities. From dribbling a football and scoring a goal to throwing bean bags in hoops, doing a mini assualt course, walking along a balance beam carrying a beaker of water and riding balance bikes - Liam loved it all.
Liam does not like competitve sports. The kids did one race. Liam was looking to be last. He didn't like that so he saw me sitting on the side and came over failing to complete the race. :(
Yes, I am a mean mother for sharing that but it's all part of the growing up process. :) The tears soon dried up and he was awarded his medal for taking part. Each kid was called up individually to collect their reward. Liam was very proud of his and was soon back to his smiley little self.
After the tiring out sports morning in the 25oC heat - Our summer is certainly here - we headed off to the park for some fun and relaxation time.
Liam enjoyed the spinning cup thingy and was enjoying a little mummy and Liam time. I'm going to miss that boy so much when he's at full time school. As much as I've missed James and Matthew when they went off to "big school", I've still had another child at home. This will be it, this is my last baby off to school so I will have a lot of time by myself so I will feel it more.
Another lovely picture of Liam proving to me that the teachers' suggestion of him struggling with mobility and strength and balance is all a bit unfounded. The teachers spend too long comparing kids to their siblings and doesn't reward or notice their attributes like I think they should.
After that I had a rare appointment at my doctors surgery, I don't have them for myself very often but I am looking to change my contraception. The implant has done me well for nearly 2 years since March, since I entered "Phase 2" of the hormone release drug, I've gone from no periods to irregular bleeding. 2 heavy periods a month, a week on, week off is not my idea of fun in the slightest. I constantly feel crap and after allowing 3 months for it to even itself out, I've had enough. I wouldn't mind the normal "once a month" routine, I wouldn't even mind a day of spotting around ovulation time but I am bleeding heavily at both those times. It seems 6 days on, 6 days off so I'm spending half the month with Aunt Flo. I've been recommended the IUS regarding my age, health and the fact it lasts us to 5 years, can be removed at any time and will regulate my system as it looks like my best interest now would be to have the rod removed. The other option is to get hubby to be... ya know.... snipped... That's going to be an interesting conversation when it comes up but I certainly need the Implanon removed before it drives me crazy.
I've taken a big chance in the world and cancelled my Weight Watchers online subscription and I am joining Slimming World in it's place. Though I have lost around 50lbs, I'm now stuck and ready for a change of direction and trying new things. It works well for a lot of people so I'm open to new ideas. I start Monday and I will go to the meetings with my best friends so it's social as much as anything. So, as Meatloaf put it, Out of The Frying Pan and Into the Fire we go.
Liam does not like competitve sports. The kids did one race. Liam was looking to be last. He didn't like that so he saw me sitting on the side and came over failing to complete the race. :(
Yes, I am a mean mother for sharing that but it's all part of the growing up process. :) The tears soon dried up and he was awarded his medal for taking part. Each kid was called up individually to collect their reward. Liam was very proud of his and was soon back to his smiley little self.
After the tiring out sports morning in the 25oC heat - Our summer is certainly here - we headed off to the park for some fun and relaxation time.
Liam enjoyed the spinning cup thingy and was enjoying a little mummy and Liam time. I'm going to miss that boy so much when he's at full time school. As much as I've missed James and Matthew when they went off to "big school", I've still had another child at home. This will be it, this is my last baby off to school so I will have a lot of time by myself so I will feel it more.
Another lovely picture of Liam proving to me that the teachers' suggestion of him struggling with mobility and strength and balance is all a bit unfounded. The teachers spend too long comparing kids to their siblings and doesn't reward or notice their attributes like I think they should.
After that I had a rare appointment at my doctors surgery, I don't have them for myself very often but I am looking to change my contraception. The implant has done me well for nearly 2 years since March, since I entered "Phase 2" of the hormone release drug, I've gone from no periods to irregular bleeding. 2 heavy periods a month, a week on, week off is not my idea of fun in the slightest. I constantly feel crap and after allowing 3 months for it to even itself out, I've had enough. I wouldn't mind the normal "once a month" routine, I wouldn't even mind a day of spotting around ovulation time but I am bleeding heavily at both those times. It seems 6 days on, 6 days off so I'm spending half the month with Aunt Flo. I've been recommended the IUS regarding my age, health and the fact it lasts us to 5 years, can be removed at any time and will regulate my system as it looks like my best interest now would be to have the rod removed. The other option is to get hubby to be... ya know.... snipped... That's going to be an interesting conversation when it comes up but I certainly need the Implanon removed before it drives me crazy.
I've taken a big chance in the world and cancelled my Weight Watchers online subscription and I am joining Slimming World in it's place. Though I have lost around 50lbs, I'm now stuck and ready for a change of direction and trying new things. It works well for a lot of people so I'm open to new ideas. I start Monday and I will go to the meetings with my best friends so it's social as much as anything. So, as Meatloaf put it, Out of The Frying Pan and Into the Fire we go.
Sunday, 8 June 2014
Not Stock (Ok, Just One)
This week has been a mix of weathers but mostly dry or drizzle. This has been good in a way as I've been participating in my new hobby of local photography.
I'm far from expert but I am amazed by how well the average little camera on a mobile phone can work these days. There is not so much need for the expensive camera and photo programs for the PC when you can get results from the touch of a finger so to speak.
Here I will talk you through a little of my locality as I know those on the other side of the Atlantic love a bit of British History.
Kentwell Hall.
Situated at the top end of my village is the stately home of Kentwell Hall. The current builiding dates back to the 16th Century whilst there has been a stately home on these grounds for much much longer with Kentwell Hall being referenced in the Domesday Book - The charter of residence that was ordered for all of England by William the Conquerer. The records were completed in 1086 and there was proof of residency at this address back then.
Like many a stately home, the grandeur begins with the 4m tall iron gates.
Through the main gates, the house remains impressive, the front gardens kept to perfection even when the house is closed to the public.
This photo was taken from the local footpath that runs through the fields surrounding the house. My personal style of photography on such landmarks is the "off the beaton track" look. My "style" is not your typical "Sight seeing" views, it's the reality of the perfect with the non perfect. This is why I chose to get these photo's on a less than perfect sunny day, with drizzle and wind. I want to photograph the real, not a prospectus for a holiday destination this is why I included the nettles in the foreground and call it "The Ramblers View".
From a slightly different angle with the surrounding fences and the boundary wall just in view on the left, the house oozes history. In summer months, the house and gardens are open for school trips and to the public.
They do Tudor re-enactments throughout the year, the summer being the most popular. School children visit wearing suitable costumes for the era and staff re-create the life of the house's past (Not my photo as the left hand corner proves).The Dickensian Christmas theme is also a big hit.
My final photo, and my personal favourite of the house is with a few tweaks but once again, suggest the enormity of the house, this is just the left hand side quarters, With 3 double chimneys and alcoves visible, one of the turrets visible, the house looks as though it would have done 400 years ago before the age of digital cameras.
Also, the little things in life we overlook but can be bought to life with photography. I found a chilli in my fridge that was rather special looking, so with a bolder colour scheme and a frame, I came up with this:
And just to finish, I am always on the lookout for beautiful wildlife and wild flowers. In the week that saw the 70th anniversary of D-Day marking the end of World War II, I cannot think of a more fitting photo to end and thank all those servicemen worldwide, whether they be "on our side" or not, but those who fought for their countries and families in hope of a better life. There are no winners in war, so let's remember all those who tried to protect those they loved:
I'm far from expert but I am amazed by how well the average little camera on a mobile phone can work these days. There is not so much need for the expensive camera and photo programs for the PC when you can get results from the touch of a finger so to speak.
Here I will talk you through a little of my locality as I know those on the other side of the Atlantic love a bit of British History.
Kentwell Hall.
This photo was taken from the local footpath that runs through the fields surrounding the house. My personal style of photography on such landmarks is the "off the beaton track" look. My "style" is not your typical "Sight seeing" views, it's the reality of the perfect with the non perfect. This is why I chose to get these photo's on a less than perfect sunny day, with drizzle and wind. I want to photograph the real, not a prospectus for a holiday destination this is why I included the nettles in the foreground and call it "The Ramblers View".
From a slightly different angle with the surrounding fences and the boundary wall just in view on the left, the house oozes history. In summer months, the house and gardens are open for school trips and to the public.
They do Tudor re-enactments throughout the year, the summer being the most popular. School children visit wearing suitable costumes for the era and staff re-create the life of the house's past (Not my photo as the left hand corner proves).The Dickensian Christmas theme is also a big hit.
My final photo, and my personal favourite of the house is with a few tweaks but once again, suggest the enormity of the house, this is just the left hand side quarters, With 3 double chimneys and alcoves visible, one of the turrets visible, the house looks as though it would have done 400 years ago before the age of digital cameras.
Also, the little things in life we overlook but can be bought to life with photography. I found a chilli in my fridge that was rather special looking, so with a bolder colour scheme and a frame, I came up with this:
And just to finish, I am always on the lookout for beautiful wildlife and wild flowers. In the week that saw the 70th anniversary of D-Day marking the end of World War II, I cannot think of a more fitting photo to end and thank all those servicemen worldwide, whether they be "on our side" or not, but those who fought for their countries and families in hope of a better life. There are no winners in war, so let's remember all those who tried to protect those they loved:
Monday, 2 June 2014
BOOM
Doesn't it just make you want one? Don't ya just forget about the prior 9 months of discomfort, moods, pains, feeling fat and like a social outcast? Forget about the birth side of it etc, He's a gorgeous little thing*.
This is just how I felt on the return to school today after 2 weeks off to be greeted by not one newborn baby boy but FOUR. It's been a busy two weeks for the local mums. Two of them are mums at the nursery Liam goes to. One of which was the baby of my friend that had the eptopic pregnancy late last year. It turned out she was having non identical twins, one nearly killed her, the other became a one in a million baby that got through so much just to exist. I am SO thrilled for that little family. All I can say, without giving too much away is that that baby is named after a world famous boxer since he was a little fighter from the word go.
Then in James class there was another birthday last Tuesday. I was trying to leave school this morning (Just in case there's something in the air as well as the water), patted her on the shoulder as I was passing to say Congratulations, had a peep in the pram to see a little blue hat. "Awww, so it's a boy... he's lovely! Well done" I said - like you do, for her to say "2 boys!" On closer inspection, there laid another baby sleeping top to toe at the other end of the pram. It was the cutest and loveliest little surprise ever!
Another mum had her baby boy early May so that's 5 baby boys been born in May. It's mad. There appears to be no clearly pregnant mums about at the moment so it must be getting near time for 2015 baby announcements.
**Don't give me that look - wink wink**
So, what with that and online friends having baby news and things going on this week, what can I say other than yes, I am feeling it right now. And all these boys being born must up my chances for a girl next year eh? Only kidding, Never say Never is all I say.... As much as I think of the un-practicalness of it all, they are still lovely and though some days, months and schooldays are tough, a big part of me, a big CRAZY part of me WOULD do it all again.
*Photo from Google search. Not a baby I actually know. I liked it so borrowed it.
Thursday, 29 May 2014
30 Day Shred
Yes, I'm doing it.
Really!!!
I am doing the 30 Day Shred.
Yep, UK size 18-20 (US 14-16 - I need to live in your country!) can do Jillian Michaels regimes.
It hurts, it's tough but I am strangely enjoying it despite my thighs feeling the pressure. The common complaint on level one is the knees, my knees are fine but my thighs feel solid and like they are bearing the brunt.
It's also bought on a whole new level of appetite. I am so hungry the following morning! I snack on fruit all day, I feel really healthy. I've heard all that before about hunger being the sign of fat burning. That would be lovely. It's definitely a feeling in my tummy I'm not used to.
So, today is day 3. 10% of the way through. Tomorrow I will make 4 days and Saturday can be my rest day. I'm currently trying to work out when to get todays done. I got as far as the warm ups before the kids drove me to give up. Exericising in half term holidays is easier said than done. After 2 days though, I know the basics so I'm doing 20 jumping jacks every time I go in the kitchen. Every little helps. :)
Really!!!
I am doing the 30 Day Shred.
Yep, UK size 18-20 (US 14-16 - I need to live in your country!) can do Jillian Michaels regimes.
It hurts, it's tough but I am strangely enjoying it despite my thighs feeling the pressure. The common complaint on level one is the knees, my knees are fine but my thighs feel solid and like they are bearing the brunt.
It's also bought on a whole new level of appetite. I am so hungry the following morning! I snack on fruit all day, I feel really healthy. I've heard all that before about hunger being the sign of fat burning. That would be lovely. It's definitely a feeling in my tummy I'm not used to.
So, today is day 3. 10% of the way through. Tomorrow I will make 4 days and Saturday can be my rest day. I'm currently trying to work out when to get todays done. I got as far as the warm ups before the kids drove me to give up. Exericising in half term holidays is easier said than done. After 2 days though, I know the basics so I'm doing 20 jumping jacks every time I go in the kitchen. Every little helps. :)
Saturday, 24 May 2014
May - Pictures Tell A Million Stories
1. May The 4th Be With You - Liam got enrolled in the Disney Shop as a Jedi Master.
2.Game Of Thrones Land On My Doorstep - 15 minutes walk from my home is a nature reserve. This is one of my favourite photo's I've ever taken. It looks so gentile and magical with the lake behind the clearing.
3. Same Nature Reserve - Matthew and Liam playing football. Liams smile says it all.
4. James New Bed - James has grown up far too quick. He's got a mid sleeper complete with storage. He loves Spiderman. The bottom drawer on the far right is where he keeps his Spiderman dress up suit. The wooden block above the cupboards pulls out as a desk.
5. Matthews first trip away from home and family. They went off on a camping trip with the school this week. Matthew is at the front of the coach in the yellow shirt. He looks so big in that view! He says he missed us and didn't really enjoy it.
6. We sneakily went away ourselves whilst Matthew was away so James enjoyed the sunny car journey.
7. We arrived to bright sunshine and scorching heat. It was a beautiful little day to get away.
8. Liam was excited to be there. Upon arrival we got a snack before heading off to the seaside.
9. Liam LOVES the carousel horses. The look on his face with daddy is a picture.
10. James prefers bigger rides. He's been on these planes so many times but this break was special as he now realises the planes are the same colour as Spiderman.
11. Even Liam is big enough to go on some rides himself. He will only go on the train if he can sit in the front to ring the bell so we have to let one train go and he waits to be at the front of the queue to get his prized seat.
12. James chilling. Batman shirt. Spiderman shoes. Marvel rules the world.
Thursday, 15 May 2014
Lyrics of The Week
Real update coming soon but today I heard a song I love and the little things you never notice suddenly seem to jump out at you.
So, whilst I'm sure we all know the Avicii version and whilst Avicii is my favourite dance act in recent years, I think this version is that little bit more soulful and me!
Turn it up and have a happy Thursday!
"Wish that I could stay forever this young
Not afraid to close my eyes
Life's a game made for everyone
And love is a prize"
Aloe BlaccSometimes, we just need to enjoy the present and have a little perspective when so much is going on in the world. Good and bad times fall upon us all, but you know, we only get one go at this life. We need to play it to have a chance of winning.
So, whilst I'm sure we all know the Avicii version and whilst Avicii is my favourite dance act in recent years, I think this version is that little bit more soulful and me!
Turn it up and have a happy Thursday!
Saturday, 3 May 2014
On We Go
Welcome to May, this year is zooming by.
All seems to be ok in the T residence as we just flit from appointment to appointment running back and forth for different things.
Hubby's diabetes is stable. His levels haven't changed for 2 years but the hospital still want him to bring his blood glucose levels below 7. He has been stalling at 7.5 which is still rather good but not in the hospital guidelines so a slight change of pattern is needed. He now injects insulin before meals and in different places to where he used to. He goes back in 3 months for a review.
Matthew is still struggling a little at school with organisation and concentration. I spent an hour in a meeting the other day and I am still no clearer on the next move with helping him. Matthew is a complex little character who does great for so long then he drops behind again and has to work hard at things again. It does all seem a bit pointless at times, THIS is what Matthew is and they seem to be trying to make him into someone and something else. The school "interest" just knocks his confidence more as he feels he can't live up to their expectations.
In a little over 2 weeks time, Matthew is off on a residential camping trip with the school for 4 nights. They are away Monday to Friday and he is so excited. We have his sleeping bag, ground sheet, torch etc. It's just a case of getting together all the clothes and wash bag. He can't wait to go.
James is doing ok. Coming up this week we see the occupational therapist. Someone who may be able to help him with making mundane jobs easier. Doing up buttons etc. He has come on so much in recent weeks and as much as I do admit I think we are making progress by these appointments, I also fear that it may be damaging his education. He is losing a day a month easily to get to these appointments. On Monday he had a 50mile round trip to a speech and language assessment meaning he missed all the afternoon then, and this OT appointment is at 12 so he could go to school for 2 hours and get back for the last hour. I keep telling myself it will benefit him but it feels like a waste of a day. His speech was doing ok, his understanding and reasoning perfect and quite above levels for his age. The lady said he was very forward and was held back a little by confidence of getting answers wrong and he doesn't like being noticed in a large crowd. He'd rather blend in. She also said the same thing I have been saying for months, part of his lisp and unclear wording comes from his missing tooth that is lodged in his gum due to an accident as a toddler. He cannot make the "Ffffff" noise as he can't do the bunny rabbit teeth they advise to learn it as he cannot push his tongue behind the teeth so it comes out "Sssssss" and the same with his "J" it comes out "Z" as his tongue doesn't quite reach that point it needs to. Overall, they aren't too concerned but are now in the process of getting him speech support within school. SUCCESS! Still lots more to work on but that's one thing we won't have to travel to disrupting his learning.
Liam has now completed 2 weeks of one on one speech therapy. He is thriving on it. He loves the singular attention and is working on his "Ppppp" sounds to start. He is also being encouraged to use more words like "Is" "Was" etc as he tends to shorten his sentences. For example looking at pictures he'll describe one as "He clapping his hands" The speech therapist, school and I are working together to get the full description of "The boy is clapping his hands" just to make that sentence clear and complete. He's doing well.
On Tuesday he is off on his first official school trip. The nursery class are off to a local farm for the day. It's a slightly extended day lasting until 1pm instead of the usual 11.45am collection. He'll love it. He's always loved his animals. So with my boys all at school until later on Tuesday it's mums day in town to get her hair cut, do a little girly shopping, get Matthew his little bag for camping with all the male grooming bits he'll need. The shower gel, toothpaste, toothbrush, deodrant, maybe even a little hair gel for his disco night. Then I'm going to shamelessly buy myself a magazine and have a lazy half hour with a decent coffee in one of the town coffee shops and just enjoy a bit of solo time. Blissful. :)
All seems to be ok in the T residence as we just flit from appointment to appointment running back and forth for different things.
Hubby's diabetes is stable. His levels haven't changed for 2 years but the hospital still want him to bring his blood glucose levels below 7. He has been stalling at 7.5 which is still rather good but not in the hospital guidelines so a slight change of pattern is needed. He now injects insulin before meals and in different places to where he used to. He goes back in 3 months for a review.
Matthew is still struggling a little at school with organisation and concentration. I spent an hour in a meeting the other day and I am still no clearer on the next move with helping him. Matthew is a complex little character who does great for so long then he drops behind again and has to work hard at things again. It does all seem a bit pointless at times, THIS is what Matthew is and they seem to be trying to make him into someone and something else. The school "interest" just knocks his confidence more as he feels he can't live up to their expectations.
In a little over 2 weeks time, Matthew is off on a residential camping trip with the school for 4 nights. They are away Monday to Friday and he is so excited. We have his sleeping bag, ground sheet, torch etc. It's just a case of getting together all the clothes and wash bag. He can't wait to go.
James is doing ok. Coming up this week we see the occupational therapist. Someone who may be able to help him with making mundane jobs easier. Doing up buttons etc. He has come on so much in recent weeks and as much as I do admit I think we are making progress by these appointments, I also fear that it may be damaging his education. He is losing a day a month easily to get to these appointments. On Monday he had a 50mile round trip to a speech and language assessment meaning he missed all the afternoon then, and this OT appointment is at 12 so he could go to school for 2 hours and get back for the last hour. I keep telling myself it will benefit him but it feels like a waste of a day. His speech was doing ok, his understanding and reasoning perfect and quite above levels for his age. The lady said he was very forward and was held back a little by confidence of getting answers wrong and he doesn't like being noticed in a large crowd. He'd rather blend in. She also said the same thing I have been saying for months, part of his lisp and unclear wording comes from his missing tooth that is lodged in his gum due to an accident as a toddler. He cannot make the "Ffffff" noise as he can't do the bunny rabbit teeth they advise to learn it as he cannot push his tongue behind the teeth so it comes out "Sssssss" and the same with his "J" it comes out "Z" as his tongue doesn't quite reach that point it needs to. Overall, they aren't too concerned but are now in the process of getting him speech support within school. SUCCESS! Still lots more to work on but that's one thing we won't have to travel to disrupting his learning.
Liam has now completed 2 weeks of one on one speech therapy. He is thriving on it. He loves the singular attention and is working on his "Ppppp" sounds to start. He is also being encouraged to use more words like "Is" "Was" etc as he tends to shorten his sentences. For example looking at pictures he'll describe one as "He clapping his hands" The speech therapist, school and I are working together to get the full description of "The boy is clapping his hands" just to make that sentence clear and complete. He's doing well.
On Tuesday he is off on his first official school trip. The nursery class are off to a local farm for the day. It's a slightly extended day lasting until 1pm instead of the usual 11.45am collection. He'll love it. He's always loved his animals. So with my boys all at school until later on Tuesday it's mums day in town to get her hair cut, do a little girly shopping, get Matthew his little bag for camping with all the male grooming bits he'll need. The shower gel, toothpaste, toothbrush, deodrant, maybe even a little hair gel for his disco night. Then I'm going to shamelessly buy myself a magazine and have a lazy half hour with a decent coffee in one of the town coffee shops and just enjoy a bit of solo time. Blissful. :)
Friday, 18 April 2014
Weight Loss Catchup.
This week I marked one year of rejoining Weight Watchers, I won't reveal my true weight on here but this was me on Wednesday when I marked my 1 year anniversary and had that day reached a grand total of 47.5lbs loss.
This is Easter weekend, I am on a mission to lose that 2.5lbs this week to reach my 50lb goal.
I do have the odd picture of me here and there but mostly upper body shots.
I am not as round as I was, I have a waist and a block of torso. I have always had the big hips and bum and here I am in clingy clothing as it's my exercise gear and I wanted to see the definition. I plan to do one of these posts every stone I lose from here on.
I still have far far to go but right now I am feeling good and full of optimism.
Oh sod it, since I'm feeling a bit vain and pleased with myself, here's a selfie of me in my favourite jeans (now loose) and a nice red t shirt. It's the best I can get with a mirror shot.
Monday, 7 April 2014
Reflection
Every now and then, I am just in awe of this world.
As much as you hope for good things, it sometimes just dawns on you that you are incredibly lucky.
If someone had told me 10 years ago, I'd be happily married with 3 kids living in the country side I would have laughed.
Actually, no, I wouldn't have laughed. I'd have burst into tears and thought how the fuck could that be possible when I feel so desperate and alone in the world.
I was no good to myself or any of those around me.
Firstly because I was married to my ex at the time. I couldn't imagine us having a long future.
Secondly as this was close to the time we first properly separated just 6 months after we married. I think this was part of the "working it out" phase.
Thirdly because I was far from happy. I had my baby boy, he was all that mattered but the two options in front of me at that time were a real case of being stuck between a rock and a hard place.
Misery of being a single parent looked likely but the thought of continuing an emotionally battering, controlling marriage wasn't any better an option. Whatever I did, I felt damned if I did, damned if I didn't.
10 years ago life was a struggle.
10 years ago I was more lost than ever.
So to have found the strength to get away from an "abusive" relationship, to have taken a big step into the crazy world out there just over a year later was a revelation.
A revelation that life can be as good as you want it to be.
You just have to be brave to make that step.
Moving on was hard, rediscovering myself was exciting and stressful at the same time. But I kept strong, kept my head held high and was happy for the first time in a long long time.
Then I met hubby and it all snowballed in a happy way I'd never felt before.
Things have been settled for 4 years in our little country home, my husband works hard, looks after us all and our 3 sons are beautiful and overall we are all fit and healthy.
THIS is all what matters in life.
Some people would not be happy with the genteelness of Happy Ever After, they have to create their own dramas, they don't feel secure, they don't feel happy with what they have. Some people have to have all the drama and that isn't me.
I'd much rather blend into society, put my family first and let life roll by around me.
I think I've found my Inner Peace.
As much as you hope for good things, it sometimes just dawns on you that you are incredibly lucky.
If someone had told me 10 years ago, I'd be happily married with 3 kids living in the country side I would have laughed.
Actually, no, I wouldn't have laughed. I'd have burst into tears and thought how the fuck could that be possible when I feel so desperate and alone in the world.
I was no good to myself or any of those around me.
Firstly because I was married to my ex at the time. I couldn't imagine us having a long future.
Secondly as this was close to the time we first properly separated just 6 months after we married. I think this was part of the "working it out" phase.
Thirdly because I was far from happy. I had my baby boy, he was all that mattered but the two options in front of me at that time were a real case of being stuck between a rock and a hard place.
Misery of being a single parent looked likely but the thought of continuing an emotionally battering, controlling marriage wasn't any better an option. Whatever I did, I felt damned if I did, damned if I didn't.
10 years ago life was a struggle.
10 years ago I was more lost than ever.
So to have found the strength to get away from an "abusive" relationship, to have taken a big step into the crazy world out there just over a year later was a revelation.
A revelation that life can be as good as you want it to be.
You just have to be brave to make that step.
Moving on was hard, rediscovering myself was exciting and stressful at the same time. But I kept strong, kept my head held high and was happy for the first time in a long long time.
Then I met hubby and it all snowballed in a happy way I'd never felt before.
Things have been settled for 4 years in our little country home, my husband works hard, looks after us all and our 3 sons are beautiful and overall we are all fit and healthy.
THIS is all what matters in life.
Some people would not be happy with the genteelness of Happy Ever After, they have to create their own dramas, they don't feel secure, they don't feel happy with what they have. Some people have to have all the drama and that isn't me.
I'd much rather blend into society, put my family first and let life roll by around me.
I think I've found my Inner Peace.
Friday, 4 April 2014
Hello April
1) We have just finished school for Easter.
2) The kids took part in a Church Service for Easter, Matthew did a reading and they all sang the songs. It was much better than I expected it to be.
3) The walk to the Church was lovely. I collected Liam from lunch club and then we walked up assisting the Reception class. They were brilliantly behaved and we all enojoyed the walk.
4) Now home my phone pedometer has recorded 14, 732 steps, 10.2km covered in 2hours 29minutes.
5) I'm enjoying a coffee and rest.
6) Not heard anything about hubby's blood tests. Assuming no news is good news.
7) Hubby had an eye test this week. He needs glasses for driving, just like me.
8) Liam has appointments for his speech therapy.
9) Last Sunday the clocks went forward. The kids have coped well. I'm coping better. They now get up at 6.30 not 5.30am.
10) Sunday was also Mothers Day. We didn't do much special Hubby was working so it was just me and the kids. They got me a massive card and a new Wii game. I love it.
11) Hubby is getting on well with the new shifts. They are 7am-7pm Mon, Tue, Sat, Sun one week. Then Wednes, Thurs Fri, the next. If he's off one day, he'll be working that day the following week and vice versa. It's working well.
12) The kids are getting so grown up.
13) Liam especially. This was his last Church service as a spectator. Next one will be Christmas and he'll be taking part in his little school uniform.
14) James is a smart little cookie these days. He's getting sneaky.
15) Matthews teacher stopped me at the end of his performance and congratulated him on how well he is behaving lately. We have made so much progress in the last year and Matthew deserves to be commended for it.
16) Matthew is currently into The Wimpy Kids books.
17) I have 8 books out from the library for myself and cannot decide which one I want to read most!
18) I'm trying to get to 20, can you tell?
19) School reports were out this week. I cannot ask for anything more from any of my kids other than they try their hardest and that's what they sound like they are doing. I'm such a proud Mum!
20) I made it, here's just a couple of pictures:
2) The kids took part in a Church Service for Easter, Matthew did a reading and they all sang the songs. It was much better than I expected it to be.
3) The walk to the Church was lovely. I collected Liam from lunch club and then we walked up assisting the Reception class. They were brilliantly behaved and we all enojoyed the walk.
4) Now home my phone pedometer has recorded 14, 732 steps, 10.2km covered in 2hours 29minutes.
5) I'm enjoying a coffee and rest.
6) Not heard anything about hubby's blood tests. Assuming no news is good news.
7) Hubby had an eye test this week. He needs glasses for driving, just like me.
8) Liam has appointments for his speech therapy.
9) Last Sunday the clocks went forward. The kids have coped well. I'm coping better. They now get up at 6.30 not 5.30am.
10) Sunday was also Mothers Day. We didn't do much special Hubby was working so it was just me and the kids. They got me a massive card and a new Wii game. I love it.
11) Hubby is getting on well with the new shifts. They are 7am-7pm Mon, Tue, Sat, Sun one week. Then Wednes, Thurs Fri, the next. If he's off one day, he'll be working that day the following week and vice versa. It's working well.
12) The kids are getting so grown up.
13) Liam especially. This was his last Church service as a spectator. Next one will be Christmas and he'll be taking part in his little school uniform.
14) James is a smart little cookie these days. He's getting sneaky.
15) Matthews teacher stopped me at the end of his performance and congratulated him on how well he is behaving lately. We have made so much progress in the last year and Matthew deserves to be commended for it.
16) Matthew is currently into The Wimpy Kids books.
17) I have 8 books out from the library for myself and cannot decide which one I want to read most!
18) I'm trying to get to 20, can you tell?
19) School reports were out this week. I cannot ask for anything more from any of my kids other than they try their hardest and that's what they sound like they are doing. I'm such a proud Mum!
20) I made it, here's just a couple of pictures:
Thursday, 20 March 2014
Doctors Week
I had planned on updating sooner than this but life got in the way.
Where to begin....? Oh yes, we've all been poorly or under the care of medical professionals in one way or another. All except Matthew who seems to be just fine.
First off, last Wednesday began a case of my worst ever water infection. Yep, one I couldn't shake off. Normally, I feel it starting and can get rid of it with a couple of pints of water or squash within a day but not this time. Full blown cystitis. Pain, discomfort, constant feeling full in the bladder was not my favourite way to spend the week! I've never had it that bad. I couldn't manage to stand for a few seconds without the discomfort and I'd never had it so bad I was losing blood. By the weekend, I was feeling a little better, I could actually walk for 10 minutes in a block. Sitting down was ok, but that gravity thing was a killer. Finally, yesterday was the first day I have felt normal.
I've been expecting to have a water infection for a while. A few weeks back I was on the verge of going to the Doctor as I believed I was suffering from kidney pain. Miraculously, once I'd told myself I'd go on Monday if I didn't feel better by the third weekend, it cleared up like magic that weekend. I'm always on the lookout for any poor health. I don't know if it's because I am a mum to 3 boys with a diabetic husband or if I am just a bit over cautious.
They say Virgoan's (like I am, well, half am) are the hypochondriacs of the zodiac. Oh, let me tell ya, sometimes I am such a hypochondriac my hypochondria moods talk to me in the voice of Stewie Griffin.
But I'm good again now.
On Monday hubby went to the Doctor as he'd been getting a pain in his thigh which he describes as feeling like he's been kicked very hard (No, it isn't me doing it!) every morning for a few months and it's now getting more frequent. The doctor said it's probably nothing to worry about too much but it doesn't fall into anything he can pinpoint right away but it could be nerve damage though it's very rare to start there as it normally gets the hands before the legs. So we left none the wiser and the Doctor sent hubby off for blood tests which we are now awaiting the results of.
Speaking of blood tests, James's results were in at the CDC appointment and he appears very healthy. No concerns with his blood though his iron levels are a little low but nothing to worry about. We were then signed off for 5 months with no real direction of what will happen between now and then. So, I rang them up and explained I am not happy with the 5 month wait and I'd like to discuss the issue further with the doctor he saw. I am awaiting her call tomorrow. He needs help now, I'm sick of the waiting here and there, the school and the CDC need to work together, have an action plan and HELP him before he gets too far behind. I am also going to fight for the Dyspraxia diagnosis to make sure he gets help. I'm a woman on a mission.
Liam had a trip to the Doctors on Monday too. That was all 3 of my T men getting help the same day. He has had a wart on his knee for some time. It's been no problem until he bumped it at school last week and now he's aware of it. He kept trying to pick at it so we got a prescription to burn it off before it could become a problem for him or get infected.
So in a nutshell, it's been one of those weeks.
Where to begin....? Oh yes, we've all been poorly or under the care of medical professionals in one way or another. All except Matthew who seems to be just fine.
First off, last Wednesday began a case of my worst ever water infection. Yep, one I couldn't shake off. Normally, I feel it starting and can get rid of it with a couple of pints of water or squash within a day but not this time. Full blown cystitis. Pain, discomfort, constant feeling full in the bladder was not my favourite way to spend the week! I've never had it that bad. I couldn't manage to stand for a few seconds without the discomfort and I'd never had it so bad I was losing blood. By the weekend, I was feeling a little better, I could actually walk for 10 minutes in a block. Sitting down was ok, but that gravity thing was a killer. Finally, yesterday was the first day I have felt normal.
I've been expecting to have a water infection for a while. A few weeks back I was on the verge of going to the Doctor as I believed I was suffering from kidney pain. Miraculously, once I'd told myself I'd go on Monday if I didn't feel better by the third weekend, it cleared up like magic that weekend. I'm always on the lookout for any poor health. I don't know if it's because I am a mum to 3 boys with a diabetic husband or if I am just a bit over cautious.
They say Virgoan's (like I am, well, half am) are the hypochondriacs of the zodiac. Oh, let me tell ya, sometimes I am such a hypochondriac my hypochondria moods talk to me in the voice of Stewie Griffin.
But I'm good again now.
On Monday hubby went to the Doctor as he'd been getting a pain in his thigh which he describes as feeling like he's been kicked very hard (No, it isn't me doing it!) every morning for a few months and it's now getting more frequent. The doctor said it's probably nothing to worry about too much but it doesn't fall into anything he can pinpoint right away but it could be nerve damage though it's very rare to start there as it normally gets the hands before the legs. So we left none the wiser and the Doctor sent hubby off for blood tests which we are now awaiting the results of.
Speaking of blood tests, James's results were in at the CDC appointment and he appears very healthy. No concerns with his blood though his iron levels are a little low but nothing to worry about. We were then signed off for 5 months with no real direction of what will happen between now and then. So, I rang them up and explained I am not happy with the 5 month wait and I'd like to discuss the issue further with the doctor he saw. I am awaiting her call tomorrow. He needs help now, I'm sick of the waiting here and there, the school and the CDC need to work together, have an action plan and HELP him before he gets too far behind. I am also going to fight for the Dyspraxia diagnosis to make sure he gets help. I'm a woman on a mission.
Liam had a trip to the Doctors on Monday too. That was all 3 of my T men getting help the same day. He has had a wart on his knee for some time. It's been no problem until he bumped it at school last week and now he's aware of it. He kept trying to pick at it so we got a prescription to burn it off before it could become a problem for him or get infected.
So in a nutshell, it's been one of those weeks.
Tuesday, 11 March 2014
Diagnosis Coming
Next week James has a new appointment at the Childrens Development Center. It's a follow up to the Griffiths Test in which some of his results came back incredibly low. For some motor skills he is way down in the 1st percentile.
With his poor physical skills and delayed speech which started off all the concerns I am just waiting to be given an official diagnosis.
From what I've read in recent days and weeks, I am very much expecting him to be diagnosed with Dyspraxia.
Dyspraxia is a learning difficulty in which a person finds Co-ordination and movement skills difficult. Whilst most of us have no trouble doing regular things, the brain doesn't quite get the message it needs when someone suffers from Dyspraxia.
I've repeatedly looked through the symptoms and have no doubt in my mind that this may be where we are heading in future appointments.
He has so many of the tell tale traits it's unbelievable. As well as delayed speech the common "symptoms" include:
All of this are James' difficulties in written form.
We are making progress though. The school and I are working through some activities that will help him gain strength and confidence. Today I have bought a load of different sized pencils so he can practice his grip and control and a "colour and trace" book. So he gets to colour and practice staying in the lines then he can trace other pictures and words to get the hands to work in the right way. I get James to help with cooking. I make him use the whisk and chop fruit. We play snap so he gets used to turning over thin cards. Last week we went to the seaside and he got to play on the 2p slot machines. Again controlling small things and getting them into a small space to work.
I'm encouraging the jumping along the path, splashing in puddles at the weekend.
Repetition does seem to be the theme of the household.
Because James has the signs of this, I do feel that's why Liams nursery teachers are so pushy about him getting seen too. I don't think Liam has half the problems James does. I think they are looking too far into it.
Kids with Dyspraxia become adults with dyspraxia. He just needs that extra bit of help to get him to a better level and to help his confidence and strength.
We've just applied to be put on the waiting list for Occupational Therapy. They will help him get through the things he has difficulty with. They'll be able to assess him more and give him the help he needs.
I'm ok with all this. I just want to be able to HELP him myself. As I've said to the school and the Paeditrician at the CDC, I want to help but understand that I can't do everything for him. There's a difference between helping and encouraging him to dress and dressing him. It's something he needs to learn for himself.
So maybe next week, we'll know a little bit more. Dad's off on that trip this time so it may be a case of waiting for the next set of reports before I can say too much more.
With his poor physical skills and delayed speech which started off all the concerns I am just waiting to be given an official diagnosis.
From what I've read in recent days and weeks, I am very much expecting him to be diagnosed with Dyspraxia.
Dyspraxia is a learning difficulty in which a person finds Co-ordination and movement skills difficult. Whilst most of us have no trouble doing regular things, the brain doesn't quite get the message it needs when someone suffers from Dyspraxia.
I've repeatedly looked through the symptoms and have no doubt in my mind that this may be where we are heading in future appointments.
He has so many of the tell tale traits it's unbelievable. As well as delayed speech the common "symptoms" include:
Movement and co-ordination
If your child has dyspraxia, they will have problems with movement and co-ordination. They may find the following difficult:
- playground activities such as hopping, jumping, running, and catching or kicking a ball (they often avoid joining in because of their lack of co-ordination and may be at risk of becoming unfit)
- games including shape-sorter toys, building blocks and jigsaw. (He's good at Lego as he persists but that is all)
- using scissors and colouring pens (their drawings may appear scribbled and more childish than they should be for their age)
- fine movements such as handwriting, tying shoelaces, doing up buttons and using a knife and fork
- keeping still (they may swing or move their arms and legs a lot and find it hard to sit still)
- walking up and down stairs
- getting dressed (He often puts them on back to front and struggles with buttons)
Concentration and learning
If your child has dyspraxia, they will have difficulty concentrating and learning. They may:
These problems can be upsetting for the child.
- do better at school in a one-to-one situation than in a group, as they are able to be guided through work
- have a poor attention span, finding it difficult to concentrate on one thing for more than a few minutes
- not automatically pick up new skills and need encouragement and repetition to help them learn
- have problems with writing stories and copying from the blackboard
Persistent problems
As your child gets older, these problems may start to have a different effect on them. For example, problems with muscle movement may mean they:
Your child may also have low self-esteem (the way they feel about themselves) as a result of these problems.
- find PE (physical education) difficult
- cannot take part in team games, which may have an effect how well they make friends
- may be bullied for being ‘different’ or clumsy
- may avoid certain activities or subjects, such as drawing
- are more tired, as they have to use more energy than other children to complete the same activities
All of this are James' difficulties in written form.
We are making progress though. The school and I are working through some activities that will help him gain strength and confidence. Today I have bought a load of different sized pencils so he can practice his grip and control and a "colour and trace" book. So he gets to colour and practice staying in the lines then he can trace other pictures and words to get the hands to work in the right way. I get James to help with cooking. I make him use the whisk and chop fruit. We play snap so he gets used to turning over thin cards. Last week we went to the seaside and he got to play on the 2p slot machines. Again controlling small things and getting them into a small space to work.
I'm encouraging the jumping along the path, splashing in puddles at the weekend.
Repetition does seem to be the theme of the household.
Because James has the signs of this, I do feel that's why Liams nursery teachers are so pushy about him getting seen too. I don't think Liam has half the problems James does. I think they are looking too far into it.
Kids with Dyspraxia become adults with dyspraxia. He just needs that extra bit of help to get him to a better level and to help his confidence and strength.
We've just applied to be put on the waiting list for Occupational Therapy. They will help him get through the things he has difficulty with. They'll be able to assess him more and give him the help he needs.
I'm ok with all this. I just want to be able to HELP him myself. As I've said to the school and the Paeditrician at the CDC, I want to help but understand that I can't do everything for him. There's a difference between helping and encouraging him to dress and dressing him. It's something he needs to learn for himself.
So maybe next week, we'll know a little bit more. Dad's off on that trip this time so it may be a case of waiting for the next set of reports before I can say too much more.
Tuesday, 4 February 2014
Liam's Report, Progress and Future Plans
Today it is Liam's turn!
Hot off the press from the update for James, we got a new appointment letter for Liam to see the speech therapist. We go next Thursday, February 13th to see what the original speech therapy lady has to say. She was wonderful and gave me hope that with her assistance we would actually get somewhere with Liams speech difficulties.
Two months on, we finally heard back from the Rhyme Time group therapy. I hated every moment of those sessions. Talking to kids aged 4 and 5 like toddlers was belittling and I could not see what was being achieved.
In short the report states that Liam had a good level of understanding, listening and waiting turns. He was able to answer all questions confidentally but needed a little assistance clapping out syllables although he was pronouncing each syllable perfectly. For the general overall report he marked 3 out of 5 for the syllables and rhyming work and 4 out of 5 for listening and attention as he really wasn't that interested.
The recommend we carry on the syllable games and clapping at home which Liam is still reluctant to do and that we would be receiving an appointment from speech therapy shortly. Ironically, that appointment arrived a week before his actual report. Again, this proves my point on the organisation of this little group.
I'd be happy for Liam to have proper one on one speech help. I personally, think he still needs to make some sounds clearer. I still get confused sometimes as to what he means. Obviously as his mum I understand him alot more than others but I just want him to get that little bit of help and see how it goes. Liams key worker at nursery is on a course with the speech therapist that Liam sees next week so she can help him with exercises in school to help him.
At home, Liam has found a new feature on his 2DS. A voice changer! He has been having so much fun with that this week! It is encouraging him to sing and talk so he can hear himself and mess about with the sounds. He particularly loves the "helium" one. Funny boy!
I just want to help my little boys and make life easier for us all in the long run. I don't enjoy all these appointments, it feels like I am neglecting the other kids needs when I am spending more time with one over the others but hopefully there will be less appointments and more progress this year.
I think the school want to refer Liam to the Child Development Center like James but I will argue that one as I don't think there is a problem with anything Liam does beyond his speech. He is confident painting and writing, he knows his numbers to 20 and can already tell me a number of phonics. We play a numberplate game where Liam tells me the letters or sounds on the car and the numbers he can see. He seems very forward with it,
The school will be making a plan of action once we've heard from the next appointment and see where to go from there. I just hope it is all available in the school rather than here there and everywhere. I'm tired of all the running about for the sake of it.
Hot off the press from the update for James, we got a new appointment letter for Liam to see the speech therapist. We go next Thursday, February 13th to see what the original speech therapy lady has to say. She was wonderful and gave me hope that with her assistance we would actually get somewhere with Liams speech difficulties.
Two months on, we finally heard back from the Rhyme Time group therapy. I hated every moment of those sessions. Talking to kids aged 4 and 5 like toddlers was belittling and I could not see what was being achieved.
In short the report states that Liam had a good level of understanding, listening and waiting turns. He was able to answer all questions confidentally but needed a little assistance clapping out syllables although he was pronouncing each syllable perfectly. For the general overall report he marked 3 out of 5 for the syllables and rhyming work and 4 out of 5 for listening and attention as he really wasn't that interested.
The recommend we carry on the syllable games and clapping at home which Liam is still reluctant to do and that we would be receiving an appointment from speech therapy shortly. Ironically, that appointment arrived a week before his actual report. Again, this proves my point on the organisation of this little group.
I'd be happy for Liam to have proper one on one speech help. I personally, think he still needs to make some sounds clearer. I still get confused sometimes as to what he means. Obviously as his mum I understand him alot more than others but I just want him to get that little bit of help and see how it goes. Liams key worker at nursery is on a course with the speech therapist that Liam sees next week so she can help him with exercises in school to help him.
At home, Liam has found a new feature on his 2DS. A voice changer! He has been having so much fun with that this week! It is encouraging him to sing and talk so he can hear himself and mess about with the sounds. He particularly loves the "helium" one. Funny boy!
I just want to help my little boys and make life easier for us all in the long run. I don't enjoy all these appointments, it feels like I am neglecting the other kids needs when I am spending more time with one over the others but hopefully there will be less appointments and more progress this year.
I think the school want to refer Liam to the Child Development Center like James but I will argue that one as I don't think there is a problem with anything Liam does beyond his speech. He is confident painting and writing, he knows his numbers to 20 and can already tell me a number of phonics. We play a numberplate game where Liam tells me the letters or sounds on the car and the numbers he can see. He seems very forward with it,
The school will be making a plan of action once we've heard from the next appointment and see where to go from there. I just hope it is all available in the school rather than here there and everywhere. I'm tired of all the running about for the sake of it.
Friday, 31 January 2014
Results, Blood Tests and Follow Up Plans
James' Griffiths tests report came back this week. He is struggling mostly with motor skills. He has a weak grasp and a "wide based run". He concentrated well, tried incredibly hard and was very good with social interaction.
All in all, with this and that tallied up, James came out with an ability level of 3 years and 10 months. So he's about 1 year and 4 months behind other kids in his age group.
I'm not at all worried about this. He has some really good qualities in other ways. They didn't check his "educational" levels as such, his reading, numbers, recognition of the normal things I'd be concerned about in school but it just seems to be the physical side.
She didn't even mention his speech in the report which was the initial reason all this started off.
So, for the moment, the report shows that James' difficulties are in fact physical ones not necessarily related to school work.
James isn't the most confident kid in the world. He's quiet and thoughtful, thinking before he speaks and acts. I don't see that as a bad quality at all.
I am no good myself at running or jumping so I see where that comes from.
The next stage was for blood tests to check for any muscle weakness and any form of genetic problem as to why he struggles with the things he does.
He was a little trooper. Considering he is only 5, he had blood taken like you would as an adult. No numbing cream or anything, they set up the strap on the upper arm and went directly into his little vein in his arm. FOUR little test tubey things were taken for sampling. I was surprised how much blood they took from such a little person! Being concerned I asked if he needed to wait before we left as we do in the UK when you Give Blood. Yes, giving blood is an entire pint, but it looked so much from his little body, it must have been in the same region of percentage of blood taken. He got his special plaster and back at school he got a special sticker when he went in for the afternoon.
We now await the results of the blood tests and we should get a follow up appointment in about 2 months. He has also been referred to Occupational Therapy which is a form of physio to help strengthen his muscles. This should be done in school, but if it isn't I am going to contest it. A trip to the Physio is 40 minutes drive and I've already told his teachers I don't want him missing out on too much school time for this. He's already missed one and a half days this month for these appointments that the school has to agree to as it's medical but I don't want time travelling back and forth to have a knock on effect to his school work in which he is doing well.
I'm just pleased we've got that done and have done everything we can to help the little man for now and that the teachers will be off my back for that for the time being at least as I am set to go through it all again with Liam due to his speech difficulties.
The things we do for our kids and their teachers.
All in all, with this and that tallied up, James came out with an ability level of 3 years and 10 months. So he's about 1 year and 4 months behind other kids in his age group.
I'm not at all worried about this. He has some really good qualities in other ways. They didn't check his "educational" levels as such, his reading, numbers, recognition of the normal things I'd be concerned about in school but it just seems to be the physical side.
She didn't even mention his speech in the report which was the initial reason all this started off.
So, for the moment, the report shows that James' difficulties are in fact physical ones not necessarily related to school work.
James isn't the most confident kid in the world. He's quiet and thoughtful, thinking before he speaks and acts. I don't see that as a bad quality at all.
I am no good myself at running or jumping so I see where that comes from.
The next stage was for blood tests to check for any muscle weakness and any form of genetic problem as to why he struggles with the things he does.
He was a little trooper. Considering he is only 5, he had blood taken like you would as an adult. No numbing cream or anything, they set up the strap on the upper arm and went directly into his little vein in his arm. FOUR little test tubey things were taken for sampling. I was surprised how much blood they took from such a little person! Being concerned I asked if he needed to wait before we left as we do in the UK when you Give Blood. Yes, giving blood is an entire pint, but it looked so much from his little body, it must have been in the same region of percentage of blood taken. He got his special plaster and back at school he got a special sticker when he went in for the afternoon.
We now await the results of the blood tests and we should get a follow up appointment in about 2 months. He has also been referred to Occupational Therapy which is a form of physio to help strengthen his muscles. This should be done in school, but if it isn't I am going to contest it. A trip to the Physio is 40 minutes drive and I've already told his teachers I don't want him missing out on too much school time for this. He's already missed one and a half days this month for these appointments that the school has to agree to as it's medical but I don't want time travelling back and forth to have a knock on effect to his school work in which he is doing well.
I'm just pleased we've got that done and have done everything we can to help the little man for now and that the teachers will be off my back for that for the time being at least as I am set to go through it all again with Liam due to his speech difficulties.
The things we do for our kids and their teachers.
Friday, 24 January 2014
London and York
How can we be on the last Friday of the month already? It doesn't seem any time at all since we were excitedly waiting and welcoming Christmas and that's nearly a month ago!
So the end of January and I didn't get round to write about Matthew's tenth birthday this year. He wanted a Playstation 2, yes, TWO so we got him that, most other family gave him money. We went for a day out in London. Taking in a few sights, a trip on the sightseeing bus and plenty of rides on the tube. We went for dinner at the O2 arena which unfortunately goes down in history as one of the worst family meals out ever, but Matthew seemed to like it even if hubby and I found it incredibly disappointing. Matthew also got to have a go at presenting a special Sky Sports News show that they had set up at the O2. He and James were behind the special news desk and Matthew read the autocue. They gave us a lovely little video to show for it. The day flew by but we had a lovely time. Matthew got to spend most of his birthday money and we all had a lovely day out.
Last weekend hubby and I went to York for the weekend. Wow! What a beautiful city! Certainly a place any visitors to the UK should visit if they like their history and architecture of days gone by.
First stop after getting off the train was to the adjacent Railway Museum. It wasn't my thing but hubby wanted to see it. It was ok but very repetitive. All trains look the same to me but we zoomed around it and saw everything before venturing into the main part of the City inside the city walls.
We took a look at York Minster. The big Cathedral in the center. It was very busy so we chose to just have a look and leave and admire the architecture from outside.
York has a bit of a dark history. So much so that it features the York Dungeon.
A center where you can relive the gory history of York. You go round in groups of about 30 from room to room and watch a little "re-enactment" of each display piece. Guy Falkes was from York so there's a fair bit about the Gunpowder Plot and his death. There was also a showing on a glass maze with lights behind to scare the shit out of you occassionally to see another ghastly figure in your place. There was a little chamber room where they discussed torture methods and weapons. 4 "shows" from the end, this is where our little tour ended as hubby fainted. At first I was panicking with him being diabetic. He said he didn't feel well. Really hot, light headed and moved to the back of the room before passing out. The room was cleared and a first aider was called in. We waited for him to stabilise, took off his coat and jumper and waited until he felt a bit more with it before exiting through the fire escape. He explained to the First Aid lady that he knew it wasn't the diabetes side effects as he normally has a couple of hours warning and normally does have plenty of chance to eat before he feels too bad. I was just the worried wife.
There we sat in the fresh air whilst he cooled down. The rooms where everything was happening were small and cramped, had all sorts of smells wafting in (part of the atmosphere) and were rather warm so being in the cooler corridor he started to look better. He didn't look so pale and after a rest and a bottle of water we were given the option to go back in where we were or have our tickets validated for another time. Staff were brilliant and really helpful. We decided to leave it and went off to get some food.
Talking about it later, hubby told me he had fainted once before. First time when standing in confined spaces with a fairly large amount of people when they were having a meeting about his school. So we're now thinking it could be a form of claustrophobia. The only thing we missed that I wouldn't have minded seeing was about the witches of York.
Before going the Dungeon we had already had a drink in The Golden Fleece.
York's most famous pub renown for it's hauntings. The ghosts of The Golden Fleece were covered in the Dungeon and the bar, hotel and restaurant was once shown on tv's Most Haunted. A ghost seeking type program which shares the haunted stories of places across Britain. It was nice to say I've been in there. I loved that show when it was on tv even though you know the stories are real stories and the "dramatics" are as fake as a Rolex off a market, I love the old dark history and tales. I never saw anything creepy in there whilst drinking my half a pint of Carlsberg, but I didn't expect to. A tiny little bar, it must only seat 20 in the actual bar yet the pub clearly trades well with the massive advertising board outside stating that it had been on tv. The restaurant was full and the food looked great. Once I explained to Matthew we had been there he was so "OMG, I have to see that episode! I can't believe you went in a haunted pub!!" Bless him! :)
The evening meal in York was BEAUTIFUL. We visited The Whippet Inn.
A new trendy steak house that had really good reviews on Tripadvisor. It was the high end of budget at £85 for 2 of us but one of the best meals out ever. Scallops with cauliflower and horseradish puree, apple crisp and pea shoot start for me. Mussels for hub. Steaks for mains with potatoes, salad and onion rings followed by Grilled fresh fruit salad with a splash of rum and homemade icecream for me and lemon tart and sorbet for Sir with a glass of good quality wine and ale. It was expensive but AMAZING! That's all I can say.
The hotel was a lovely. A short walk from the station and City center. Comfortable, warm and a lovely place to just chill at the end of the night. Breakfast in the morning had a great choice and then it was time to get the train home.
I would certainly go back to York. Another time for the full weekend so we can see York Minster, the museum of Yorkshire, the walls, the gardens, the other visitor attractions. Maybe it's an idea for our anniversary this year. I'd love a proper bit of time to see a bit more than what we did as it was a really lovely little break with so much to see and do.
So the end of January and I didn't get round to write about Matthew's tenth birthday this year. He wanted a Playstation 2, yes, TWO so we got him that, most other family gave him money. We went for a day out in London. Taking in a few sights, a trip on the sightseeing bus and plenty of rides on the tube. We went for dinner at the O2 arena which unfortunately goes down in history as one of the worst family meals out ever, but Matthew seemed to like it even if hubby and I found it incredibly disappointing. Matthew also got to have a go at presenting a special Sky Sports News show that they had set up at the O2. He and James were behind the special news desk and Matthew read the autocue. They gave us a lovely little video to show for it. The day flew by but we had a lovely time. Matthew got to spend most of his birthday money and we all had a lovely day out.
Last weekend hubby and I went to York for the weekend. Wow! What a beautiful city! Certainly a place any visitors to the UK should visit if they like their history and architecture of days gone by.
First stop after getting off the train was to the adjacent Railway Museum. It wasn't my thing but hubby wanted to see it. It was ok but very repetitive. All trains look the same to me but we zoomed around it and saw everything before venturing into the main part of the City inside the city walls.
We took a look at York Minster. The big Cathedral in the center. It was very busy so we chose to just have a look and leave and admire the architecture from outside.
York has a bit of a dark history. So much so that it features the York Dungeon.
There we sat in the fresh air whilst he cooled down. The rooms where everything was happening were small and cramped, had all sorts of smells wafting in (part of the atmosphere) and were rather warm so being in the cooler corridor he started to look better. He didn't look so pale and after a rest and a bottle of water we were given the option to go back in where we were or have our tickets validated for another time. Staff were brilliant and really helpful. We decided to leave it and went off to get some food.
Talking about it later, hubby told me he had fainted once before. First time when standing in confined spaces with a fairly large amount of people when they were having a meeting about his school. So we're now thinking it could be a form of claustrophobia. The only thing we missed that I wouldn't have minded seeing was about the witches of York.
Before going the Dungeon we had already had a drink in The Golden Fleece.
York's most famous pub renown for it's hauntings. The ghosts of The Golden Fleece were covered in the Dungeon and the bar, hotel and restaurant was once shown on tv's Most Haunted. A ghost seeking type program which shares the haunted stories of places across Britain. It was nice to say I've been in there. I loved that show when it was on tv even though you know the stories are real stories and the "dramatics" are as fake as a Rolex off a market, I love the old dark history and tales. I never saw anything creepy in there whilst drinking my half a pint of Carlsberg, but I didn't expect to. A tiny little bar, it must only seat 20 in the actual bar yet the pub clearly trades well with the massive advertising board outside stating that it had been on tv. The restaurant was full and the food looked great. Once I explained to Matthew we had been there he was so "OMG, I have to see that episode! I can't believe you went in a haunted pub!!" Bless him! :)
The evening meal in York was BEAUTIFUL. We visited The Whippet Inn.
A new trendy steak house that had really good reviews on Tripadvisor. It was the high end of budget at £85 for 2 of us but one of the best meals out ever. Scallops with cauliflower and horseradish puree, apple crisp and pea shoot start for me. Mussels for hub. Steaks for mains with potatoes, salad and onion rings followed by Grilled fresh fruit salad with a splash of rum and homemade icecream for me and lemon tart and sorbet for Sir with a glass of good quality wine and ale. It was expensive but AMAZING! That's all I can say.
The hotel was a lovely. A short walk from the station and City center. Comfortable, warm and a lovely place to just chill at the end of the night. Breakfast in the morning had a great choice and then it was time to get the train home.
I would certainly go back to York. Another time for the full weekend so we can see York Minster, the museum of Yorkshire, the walls, the gardens, the other visitor attractions. Maybe it's an idea for our anniversary this year. I'd love a proper bit of time to see a bit more than what we did as it was a really lovely little break with so much to see and do.
Monday, 20 January 2014
Moms Are Amazing.
On this occassion I cannot take credit for such wit but here is something that all mums worldwide would understand. My personal added thoughts are in brackets at the end of each statement:
21 Clear Signs You're a Mom
1. Instead of running from projectile vomit, you run towards it. (sticking a towel in a washing machine is FAR better than trying to clear it off the carpet, walls, floors, work surfaces. You know what I mean)
2. You do more in seven minutes than most people do all day. (Dress 2 children aged 4 and 5, pack 3 lunches, check book bags, pe bags, swimming backs, lunch bags, line up 3 pairs of shoes and 3 coats. Check I filled in any forms of permission. Do I need money for anything? Where is my phone? My keys? All in my bag as they should be. Feeling sort of organised!!! Welcome to 8am - 8.10am Monday morning)
3. Happy hour has become the 60 minutes between your kids going to bed and you going to bed. (The sod it, dinner can wait for me and hubby hour!)
4. A glass of wine counts as a serving of fruit. (Not that often but sometimes, wine is a good stress reliever and brings out more goodness and inner satisfaction than an orange or apple)
5. You have mini-therapy sessions all day long with anyone who will listen. (I have blog therapy)
6. Going to the grocery store by yourself is a vacation. (I love this. I can look at what I want to look at. I spend what I need to spend. Done)
7. You think of physical pain on three levels: pain, excruciating pain and stepping on a Lego. (With 3 male offspring. That really is the truth. Give me another birth with no pain relief anytime!)
8. You have the ability to hear a sneeze through closed doors in the middle of the night, two bedrooms away, while your husband snores next to you. (Or your kids sleep talking, turning on the bathroom light, the cat over the road)
9. You'd rather have a 103 degree fever than watch one of your kids suffer with it. (I get on with it, the kids look so sad!)
10. A 15-minute shower with the door locked feels like a day at the spa. (Yes indeed)
11. Peeing with an audience is part of the daily routine. (Aint that the truth)
12. You use baby wipes to clean up random spills and the dash of your car. (And kitchen, and dining table, and coffee table and to dust the window sills, clean the skirting boards! There's a million uses for a baby wipe)
13. You lock yourself in the bathroom and pretend to have diarrhea just to get a break. (No, I just sit there for a quiet 5 minutes. I don't pretend anything)
14. You love Moms' Night Out and Date Night with the Hubs. (Really enjoy date night, moms night not so much anymore)
15. You have a secret chocolate stash because frankly, you're sick of sharing. (Actually no. I just occassionally steal theirs)
16. You've been washing the same load of laundry for three days because you forgot to dry it. (Not quite that bad but some things have been double washed as after a day in the machine it began to smell damp)
17. You realize you've been watching Nick Jr. alone, even though your kids have been in bed for over 30 minutes. (It's more worrying when you find yourself watching Crash and Bernstein or Phineus and Ferb 2 hours after they are in bed as it was the only thing that you wanted to watch)
18. You can cook dinner, breastfeed, talk on the phone and yell at the kids, all without breaking stride or missing any of the TV show you are watching. (90% true but watching tv when you have a kid, let alone 3 is a big myth)
19. You get more excited about the Mini Boden Catalogue than J Crew's. (Not at all. Never heard of J Crew and I don't do catalogues but I love shopping for the kids.)
20. You decide to stick with your car for the next decade because a) you can't afford to switch and b) you haven't found a car wash that knows how to get all the milk stains and glitter removed. (We change car regularly, every year or so but only because we know it will get damaged to a point we can no longer fix it ourselves. We only buy cheap so it doesn't matter quite so much)
21. By the end of the day, brushing your teeth feels like a huge accomplishment. (And end of night bedtime seems to be the biggest reward of all!)
21 Clear Signs You're a Mom
1. Instead of running from projectile vomit, you run towards it. (sticking a towel in a washing machine is FAR better than trying to clear it off the carpet, walls, floors, work surfaces. You know what I mean)
2. You do more in seven minutes than most people do all day. (Dress 2 children aged 4 and 5, pack 3 lunches, check book bags, pe bags, swimming backs, lunch bags, line up 3 pairs of shoes and 3 coats. Check I filled in any forms of permission. Do I need money for anything? Where is my phone? My keys? All in my bag as they should be. Feeling sort of organised!!! Welcome to 8am - 8.10am Monday morning)
3. Happy hour has become the 60 minutes between your kids going to bed and you going to bed. (The sod it, dinner can wait for me and hubby hour!)
4. A glass of wine counts as a serving of fruit. (Not that often but sometimes, wine is a good stress reliever and brings out more goodness and inner satisfaction than an orange or apple)
5. You have mini-therapy sessions all day long with anyone who will listen. (I have blog therapy)
6. Going to the grocery store by yourself is a vacation. (I love this. I can look at what I want to look at. I spend what I need to spend. Done)
7. You think of physical pain on three levels: pain, excruciating pain and stepping on a Lego. (With 3 male offspring. That really is the truth. Give me another birth with no pain relief anytime!)
8. You have the ability to hear a sneeze through closed doors in the middle of the night, two bedrooms away, while your husband snores next to you. (Or your kids sleep talking, turning on the bathroom light, the cat over the road)
9. You'd rather have a 103 degree fever than watch one of your kids suffer with it. (I get on with it, the kids look so sad!)
10. A 15-minute shower with the door locked feels like a day at the spa. (Yes indeed)
11. Peeing with an audience is part of the daily routine. (Aint that the truth)
12. You use baby wipes to clean up random spills and the dash of your car. (And kitchen, and dining table, and coffee table and to dust the window sills, clean the skirting boards! There's a million uses for a baby wipe)
13. You lock yourself in the bathroom and pretend to have diarrhea just to get a break. (No, I just sit there for a quiet 5 minutes. I don't pretend anything)
14. You love Moms' Night Out and Date Night with the Hubs. (Really enjoy date night, moms night not so much anymore)
15. You have a secret chocolate stash because frankly, you're sick of sharing. (Actually no. I just occassionally steal theirs)
16. You've been washing the same load of laundry for three days because you forgot to dry it. (Not quite that bad but some things have been double washed as after a day in the machine it began to smell damp)
17. You realize you've been watching Nick Jr. alone, even though your kids have been in bed for over 30 minutes. (It's more worrying when you find yourself watching Crash and Bernstein or Phineus and Ferb 2 hours after they are in bed as it was the only thing that you wanted to watch)
18. You can cook dinner, breastfeed, talk on the phone and yell at the kids, all without breaking stride or missing any of the TV show you are watching. (90% true but watching tv when you have a kid, let alone 3 is a big myth)
19. You get more excited about the Mini Boden Catalogue than J Crew's. (Not at all. Never heard of J Crew and I don't do catalogues but I love shopping for the kids.)
20. You decide to stick with your car for the next decade because a) you can't afford to switch and b) you haven't found a car wash that knows how to get all the milk stains and glitter removed. (We change car regularly, every year or so but only because we know it will get damaged to a point we can no longer fix it ourselves. We only buy cheap so it doesn't matter quite so much)
21. By the end of the day, brushing your teeth feels like a huge accomplishment. (And end of night bedtime seems to be the biggest reward of all!)
Friday, 17 January 2014
One To Twelve
1) The less stress, slowed down, enjoying life more Me is happy with the more relaxed attitude.
2) One of my favourite times of the week is now the walk home from school. We don't need to hurry. I don't need to get stressed when the kids trail along slowly. I now look upon it as a time to discuss their days. It's much more enjoyable. We're finding no difference in the time it takes to walk home but we all walk in the door happy.
3) James has his Griffiths Test on Monday. I've explained that it will be a time to play games, do puzzles and follow instructions to see how he is doing in school. He is looking forward to it!
4) Hubby's Grandad went back in hospital on Tuesday. He went to the Doctors as he was feeling unwell. He was taken to hospital by ambulance as the Doctor was concerned.
5) His medication following the heart attack wasn't working as they hoped.
6) Today he is having an op to help clear any blockages that may be troublesome.
7) Tomorrow we go to York. Hopefully I will get a lot of pictures.
8) Liam is nursery's Star Of The Week.
9) Liam's teachers are impressed with his singing and number work.
10) Matthew started swimming at school again today. They now go to the local leisure centre rather than the school pool.
11) We are still having incredibly mild weather conditions for January. I LOVE it.
12) I'm reading alot more again. This makes me feel relaxed and I am becoming more critical of books. This year I am trying to write reviews on Goodreads rather than just rate books.
2) One of my favourite times of the week is now the walk home from school. We don't need to hurry. I don't need to get stressed when the kids trail along slowly. I now look upon it as a time to discuss their days. It's much more enjoyable. We're finding no difference in the time it takes to walk home but we all walk in the door happy.
3) James has his Griffiths Test on Monday. I've explained that it will be a time to play games, do puzzles and follow instructions to see how he is doing in school. He is looking forward to it!
4) Hubby's Grandad went back in hospital on Tuesday. He went to the Doctors as he was feeling unwell. He was taken to hospital by ambulance as the Doctor was concerned.
5) His medication following the heart attack wasn't working as they hoped.
6) Today he is having an op to help clear any blockages that may be troublesome.
7) Tomorrow we go to York. Hopefully I will get a lot of pictures.
8) Liam is nursery's Star Of The Week.
9) Liam's teachers are impressed with his singing and number work.
10) Matthew started swimming at school again today. They now go to the local leisure centre rather than the school pool.
11) We are still having incredibly mild weather conditions for January. I LOVE it.
12) I'm reading alot more again. This makes me feel relaxed and I am becoming more critical of books. This year I am trying to write reviews on Goodreads rather than just rate books.
Friday, 10 January 2014
This Year I Promise ......
Nothing major, just to be more compassionate, understanding and to step back from lifes stresses and ENJOY the world more.
I've never been religious, but I guess, deep down I'm a spiritualist. I don't do the yoga, I don't do the alternative therapies, I don't look to Angels for guidance but I do believe that Happiness comes from the inside.
That happiness is a state of mind and if you want it you can achieve it.
I am a rather reflective person, but I try not to dwell on the bad things in life. I try to work out how to make them better.
There are some tough times in life. Really tough times and those days can be slow, long and dark but there's always going to be a light at the end of the tunnel.
Worrying about things does no good, but making a positive change, going out to do something that makes you feel good and generally seeing the small, good things in life can make such a difference.
This year, I want to lose all the guilt I've been carrying around for so long.
The mis-calculations that lead to a failed marriage. That I let my kids down. That my kids have been struggling in school or with speech or whatever. There's very little I can do to change the past but there are ways I can accept that sometimes, the world does suck. Each tough lesson is a step to a stronger person the other end.
I've always been a tad emotional, self critical and find it easy to feel a complete failure when things don't go my way. I'm the first to admit I can over-react and feel overwhelmed taking things too personally too often. It comes back to guilt, it comes back to feelings of failure.
I don't get this way very often, but when I do, I hate myself even more.
This year, it's all about acceptance that sometimes things just happen. It's not always a personal attack on or at me, it's just the Universe and how it happens. If my kids are struggling with things, I can only do my best. If I am supportive and know I am trying then that really should be enough this year. I won't beat myself up over not getting it right.
This year, I will stop feeling guilty about not liking people. If I have a distinct feeling that I don't like someone, I will remain polite but accept that my first impressions are often right and learn to distance myself from the "bad energy" (I didn't want to sound like a hippy or anything but it's getting that way) I don't have to be friends with everyone. It's ok not to like people. I'd rather be true to myself rather than force something I don't feel or live a lie and be a hypocrite.
I will not feel guilty that friendships have changed. Sometimes a step back is needed and we need to move forward in a different direction.
In short, I want this year to be more simple. More about the little things in the world that make the whole picture an amazing scene of beauty.
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